I may get demonized for this, but oh well. I realized this morning that I am not interested in living in a consensual living family. Not with small children and maybe not ever. Most likely not ever. I believe that parents deserve to put boundaries up that seem completely over the top inappropriate to the kids. I am not being mean I am preserving my sanity so that I do not lose my shit and beat her some day many years hence because it is just the last @#%#@# time she is going to come in my room and destroy my belongings.
My room is off limits. Period.